Question: Who are your friends?

Who are the people you love spending time with and that you allow to speak into your life?
The people you decide to surround yourself with have a great influence on the kind of life you will have.

It is very simple: if you decide to surround yourself with people who have no ambitions, and have no desire to do anything with their lives other than party and be lazy...then guess what...that is the kind of life that YOU will have.

It is VITAL that the people you have as your 'inner circle' of friends are people who not only have big dreams, but have the work ethic and determination to see those dreams become a reality.

It says in the bible that He (God) gave His people the ABILITY to get wealth. It also says in Galatians 6 that 'a man reaps what he sows'. These principles work whether you believe in God or not. The multi millionaires (like Bill Gates and Alan Sugar (yes i love 'The Apprentice too :D)) and top athletes did not get to the top by just sayn 'i want to be the best' and doing nothing else. It took years and years of hard work and dedication to get them to where they wanted to go. Too many people are too impatient, they want everything NOW, without the hard work. I alos bet that their close friends are higher flyers in their field as well. Why would they have wasted time with people who content on just being 'mediocre'?

I can say that ALL of my closest friends have the desire and drive to be world changers. It is this reason that they are my friends, because that is what I want to be, and they help inspire and encourage me to carry on going for my dreams, especially when its tough going. I don't want to be mediocre in any area of my life, and so I want my friends to have that same desire.

My advice to you all is, if you have a bunch of no good, broke ass, too busy waiting in the queue to get their next benefit cheque to actually find themselves a job they are more than capable of doin, then DROP THEM. The only thing they have to teach you is how to be a loser.

I shall leave you with this bible passage from ecclesiastes that is very close to my heart, because friendship is SO important, so make sure that you are investing in relationship that are worthwhile..God bless

'There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth. "For whom am I toiling," he asked, "and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?". This too is meaningless, a miserable existence!
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no-one to help him up!' (ecclesiastes 4 v 7-10)

Zup peoples!!!

Well...its been a couple of weeks since I have posted anything...so I have decided 2 dedicate this post 2 the place I have grown 2 love more than any other...Canterbury :D!!!!

Even sayn the name brings a smile to my face. Now I know wat some of u r thinkn..'wat on earth is he babbling about? Canterbury is a small, hick, backwater place full of chavs and 'ruddy' students!!'...and ok there is an ELEMENT of that (like the way I said 'ruddy'? That word isn't used enough in everyday language if u ask me :D!!).

Neways, the reason I love the place so, is because it is the place that God has blessed me the most. He has been so good to me my entire life, but when He took me to the City Church in Canterbury, my life was forever changed. The calibre and integrity of christians there not only makes me proud to say that I am one of them, but it has and continues to inspire me to press on in my personal relationship with God. People who try and argue that christians are nothing but a bunch of boring hyprocrites, too busy spouting bible passages to be of any use to the rest of the 'enlightened' world has never encountered someone from this church.

The friendships that God blessed me with there, that I still have 2day, are things that I never thought I would ever have, but because of the grace and love of Jesus, I now have the best and most wonderful friends on this earth, peoples I can call my family.

I know I know, this all sounds like a sickly ending to one of those family shows like '7th Heaven' or....whatever else, but its all true.

I went back there last weekend for my friend's stag do, and I got to see them all again, and so I believe they deserve a mention on my blog, because they are all an integral part of my life, and this blog at the end of the day is about my life....so here you are :).

Anyways...you all know who you are...and wat u mean to me (despite wat i jokingly say sometimes :D)...and so I want to take this opportunity to PUBLICLY thankyou all for the love, friendship and laughs you have shared with me, I will always be grateful to God for this gift He has given me, which is all of you :)

Right...im gana let you guys get off and be sick after this 'slightly' self indulgent post. But if any of you reading this are in the Canterbury area, not christians and looking for the answer to the meaning of life, gte urself along to The City Church and meet with the living God, He will change your life.

Rite..im TRULY off this time..God Bless xx

Helo once again......

We all have an innate need, no matter who you are, where you're from or what you believe, to have a sense of purpose, a need to have our individual lives 'mean something'. People can argue that there is no meaning to life, and that the world came from nothing and will return to that same state, but you will never find someone saying that their biggest dream is to have accomplished nothing with their time on this earth. We also have need of something or someone that will keep us safe and secure. Some people pursue money in order to satisfy this desire, while other people surround themselves with other people to have this need met.

The point is that these are the things that connect us all together, yet at the same time it is these same things that cause contention between us. For instance, I work in an independent financial Advisory firm, and I have seen people so obsessed with obtaining more and more money, that they would snap their own grandmother's back to get it. It stems from a desperate need to not only be secure, but also to feel like they have achieved something, because now they can say to themselves 'I have all this money, that makes me a success'!! Money is just one example, but you can substitute for a number of different things; sex, fame, power, possessions...all of these have the same effect.

I think that is a very sad thing. 9 out of 10 times, when you get what what you want, after all that effort, you find that it just doesnt satisfy, and so you keep going for more, thinking that at some point you will get that elusive feeling of 'satisfaction'. What a waste of time. We put all of our faith, energy and hope into these things that don't do anything for us, and more importantly don't last. Look at famous artists and writers like Pollack, Da Vinci, Dickens and Shakespeare, their desire was to write works and create art that wud stand the test of time, and congratulations to them, because they have. But of what use is that to them now? They're dead.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to feel secure, or having a desire to have our lives mean something, because it is a natural desire, the problem lies in the way we try to outwork them and the things we choose to focus on. In the bible, it says 'why spend money on what is not bread, and labour on what does not satisfy' (Isaiah 55 verse 2..if you're interested), and in that one statement, the man makes a very profound point. We buy all these different gadgets, and we work and work and waste SO much of our time on things that, at the end of the day, are meaningless and have no REAL value. So, why waste time with it.

As I have said, im a Christian, and I know that it is only in Jesus Christ that I can find true fulfilment and nourishment, because everything that is outside of that is worthless and finite, while He is everlasting and MORE than sufficient for every possible need.

I guess what I am trying to say, is that we should all have a long hard look at ourselves, and ask whether or not the desires we have and the methods we use to see them fufilled are worth it. Life is too short to waste on things are not going to bring true fulfilment.

Well, I guess this is where I make my exit.

Until next time, God bless : ) xx